http://www.kanolabs.com/Some hardware stores sell it, but it's not that easy to find. Someone on the internet posted that a 50/50 mix of auto trans fluid and acetone works very well, but I have not tried it and acetone is very flammable.
the tricks that help putting the drive back on:
first of all make sure your coupler/engine is aligned
have boat on a level surface
get or build a drive jack (perferably height adjustable)
tie up the trim rams so they are sitting a little above level, this gets them out of the way
use an alignment tool to get the gimble bearing lined up with the coupler
start out with the top mating surface of the drive, level with the top mating surface of the pivot housing.
when you slide the driveshaft in, try to keep it straight (u-joints will let it flop around)
you can put a floor jack under the lower unit to get it lined up, if your drive stand is not height adjustable
screwdriver trick...you install a Cobra, or Volvo SX in neutral, so you can't turn the prop shaft like on an Alpha drive (these are removed and installed in FWD gear) to line up the splines. the splines must line up for the d.s. to go in the coupler.
So when the drive is most of the way on, you slide a long screwdriver in the u joints to slightly turn the driveshaft to help line up the splines. this and raising or lowering the drive helps a lot.
It can fight you for 2 hrs, or slide on in 20 min. Yesterday was a shorter one. Tricks really help.
Remember: Evinrude triple guard grease on the driveshaft splines. Motor oil (not grease) on the 2 o-rings on the drive shaft. Same grease will hold that odd shaped gasket for the water transfer housing in place. Same grease on both mating surfaces for drive/pivot. Evinrude or Permatex Aviation sealer on the threads for the 6 studs. Triple guard grease on the bearing carrier that fits into the end of the bellows, and also on that part of the bellows.
The bellows on these are very durable if they are installed right. I've had them last more than ten years. But if you must keep your drive up all the time, 5 years is a better interval.
Painting...tough to get paint to stay on aluminum. Because it starts oxidizing the minute after you're done sanding. I use Trilux-33 brush on and spray for the pivot housing and the Primocon under water metal primer for bare spots.
If you go over to:
www.boatered.comand look in the forums, there was a member there 'GeeBee' who posted the real proper way to paint alu. Me I just don't have the patience to do it that way, but it is the right way. Takes several days really. If you don't leave it in the water, then zinc chromate primer/volvo paint will work. Keep in mind zinc/chromate is toxic, make sure to wear a fume respirator.