Since I am having a difficult time vizualizing the plug you are referring to this may be no help but I dismantled the helm harness plug (I.E. removed wires from the harness without damaging the plastic housing or the crimped on pins/sleeves of the wires) just so I could clean up and eliminate uneccessary wires but wanted the save them in case I decided to revert to factory.
It really is not as difficult as it would appear but I spent a fair amount of time re-wiring a couple of early 300zx's to convert them from the rediculous digital dashboards to the analogue. Principal was the same - dismantle the plugs from the wires without damage and switching with other wires or changing placement on the harness block. It was no different for the FW harness but the female side pins (male plug) is easier than the male pins (female plug). The male pins (female plug) required the plug be dismantled. I used only a jewlers flathead screwdriver - the type that would be suitable to work screws on eyeglasses.
If I remember right the rubber grommet just pries out. Then there is a plastic "backer" inside the plug is held with clips on the sides. Insert driver on each side to unclip and wiggle out. The wire pins are each held with a tiny plastic hook (big time caution here if it breaks the plug housing is NFG).
If this makes any sense at all or if you are determined to attempt but would like pics to clarify I could probably pull the harness plug this weekend and do something up. It really is fairly easy once you know where the "clips and hooks" are.
