Out4fun, I just went through the same thing with my '05 230. I posted details in a thread on BABC at
http://www.boatingabc.com/ubb/ultimateb ... 7/994.html. I assume you have the same Tie Down LP7000 coupler that I have.
I hope the previous suggestions of making sure your solenoid is getting power will solve your problem, because that's a lot easier to fix.
First, you should be able to manually lock it out using the pin without bending it. I'm not sure why your pin would've gotten bent, unless maybe it didn't go through the heat treating process when it was made. That pin is meant to be used for that.
Tie Down sent me a new lockout solenoid, which I noticed had a different part number from the original. At about the same time, someone mentioned that the company that makes those solenoids had a defective batch of them get out last year. I don't know if that's true, but I've speculated that the new part number may be used to distinguish the corrected solenoids from the defective ones. The fact that my solenoid failed after one light season of towing may be evidence that the "defective batch" theory is true. There is very little difference in the outward appearance of the new and old ones, other than the part number (old: 11253; new: 11253R. Even Tie Down's current parts list shows the number as 11253A, but if you order one from them you'll get a 11253R).
Anyway, if you have the LP7000 coupler and your solenoid has to be replaced, you'll want to check out that other thread.
NOTE - on the parts page referenced above by Admin, there are two solenoids listed for the '05 230 trailer coupler. *Neither* of them are correct for this coupler. Odd, since the listing for the entire coupler *is* correct. The two solenoids they show are the old style that lock pressure in the lines if you try to back up when the brakes are activated. The new style solenoid releases pressure on the lines when in reverse, even if pressure is in the lines at the time you go into reverse. The Tie Down part number for the new solenoid is 11253R.
Also note, if you replace your solenoid, download Tie Down's instructions for priming and bleeding the coupler first. It's at
http://www.tiedown.com/pdf/c462.pdf. If you don't prime the dampener before bleeding the brakes after installing the new solenoid, you can RUIN the entire coupler (DAMHIKT).
Hope this helps.